But I think there is a lot more to this. I like Tolstoy's words. If I want to be happy, all I need to do is let myself be happy. I'm not saying that I can choose how I feel, or choose how I respond to the world around me. What I can choose is what attitude I take for my life. This is my life. I don't need to be sad or stifled because my best friend is PMSing, or because another friend is overwhelmed with work and deadlines. I can love them and empathize with them, but I do not need to embrace their emotions as my own.
I also don't need a reason to be happy. If I want to be happy, I can be. Every individual is entitled to happiness, and that includes me. As much as I want to give to others (emotionally, spiritually, physically), I need to keep those things for myself, too. I don't like the idea of withholding from others to keep for myself, but joy is a renewable resource. I hope the people I love can learn that they deserve to embrace happiness for themselves, too.
I love this entry. I think it is a wonderful though to remind yourself to love the ones going through things, but to not take those things upon yourself. And yes, we are always entitled to be happy--you never need a reason.
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